Another Friday, and another night at home alone, and I AM COMPLETELY CONTENT. Physically I was unwell this week, still dealing with female issues, but mentally I’ve been in a great mood. Although some of my supporters have been going through rough times, and it is extremely disheartening to see that our community is failing to take mental health seriously, personally, I am in a good place. I was beginning to feel defeated because of the lack of participation. I had to realize that I CAN”T SAVE THE WORLD. The fact that people are watching tells me that I am reaching. Everyone isn’t transparent so I have to focus on the positives. My platform is growing. Men are watching and interacting which is an absolute positive. In addition, I have women interacting with me both nationally and internationally. These women are experiencing the same issues that I have, and they are able to heal from my experiences. I thank God for allowing me to realize my purpose.
As January comes to an end, I encourage the ladies to send the pictures of their beautiful faces without makeup. February is just a few days away and I’m excited that our men will have a full, fresh month to focus on their mental health. There are many of my male friends who are hurting but they won’t admit it because they’ve been taught that men aren’t supposed to show emotion. I was disappointed in their lack of participation up to now, however, they have definitely been interacting as far as supporting me with donations, viewing my lives, reading the blog, and listening to the podcast. The fact that some of the men are showing interest is a plus. I anticipate that by the end of February, more of the men will be in a better place with their mental health. I expect to see more participation on the live videos and more subscribers on the website. These next three months will be the perfect set up for success to lead us into May for Mental Health month!
Although I am looking forward to the upcoming month, I cannot deny that the ignorance of some people really disappoints me. The topic of suicide has been discussed quite often due to the mental health crisis that we have been in as of late. Unfortunately, not everyone realizes that suicide is not a dirty word. It unfortunately is sad, unpleasant, scary, hurtful, ugly, bad, and it should NEVER happen…but it is not a word that should never be discussed. Similar to sex, many people believe that if suicide isn’t discussed, it won’t happen. This is a myth. It needs to be discussed in order to make people aware of the warning signs and the reasons life is worth living.
For some reason, trying to get through to God’s children is like walking on the moon. I know that behind their inability to rationalize is hurt. The belief of some people that a person who commits suicide is selfish, comes from a place of trauma or their own selfishness. There is no way that one can honestly and in good conscience, think a suicide victim is selfish. To think that suicide is about anyone of than the victim is absolutely ludicrous. Death of any kind will cause grief to the one left behind; therefore, when a person takes his/her own life, the loved ones usually feel hurt because they missed the signs, or they tend to feel a sense of guilt because they feel as if they didn’t do enough. When they are angry and accuse the victim of being selfish there is more often than not other things going on. After all, how can anyone judge how another sins?
When I see the incessant insensitive comments, I simply state my peace, accept the additional block or delete, and move on. It does, however, confirm for me why there are so many mental health issues. The attitudes displayed about the topic is horrific! So many are afraid to say they are not ok for fear of the negative judgements. Some of the judgements could possibly force a weak minded individual to take their life. It seems it is usually the individuals unaccepting of the opinions of others, who are the most opinionated. Unlike most, my opinions are based on my experiences, the experiences of others or what I’ve read. I do not base it on what I think or heard from someone else. If I state that it’s a FACT and not an OPINION, it’s just that, but I get attitude instead of an apology. This tells me that people are more interested in being right than having valuable information that can save lives. At some point…I don’t know when…but at some point…maybe at 394 murders. Maybe at 399, or maybe even at 410. Maybe the opinions will change when their son attempts suicide, or their daughter hides her abusive relationship for ten years. Maybe when you find out that your wife has been sleeping with your pastor and you need someone to talk to. We have to stop waiting for the perfect time to unmask our imperfections. While we are waiting…auditioning for the part of the perfect spouse, mom, dad, friend, boss, etc., we are killing ourselves. Pretending…Playing a part for people who are pretending also…people who don’t like us as much as we don’t like them. Everyone is dying to be perfect; not realizing that this is all in vain because only Jesus himself was perfect. What in the world is wrong with the mind that you are not comfortable with the person that God created you to be? Be comfortable in your own skin. Stop dying to be perfect.
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