MY CONFIDENCE DEFINES ME BUT A STONG BLACK WOMAN IS WHO I AM

As a black woman, I am often labeled 🏷 aggressive, combative, toxic, and argumentative, etc. I am criticized by some for being too independent; others call me too outspoken. Being a Cancer by zodiac, I’m thought to be a “cry baby” and “overly sensitive“. My hard exterior causes people to expect me to have tough skin, therefore, many expect that they can treat me as they please, and cannot handle when I reciprocate their mistreatment of me. I refuse to be defined by my appearance, but by my confidence and strength which define me. A STRONG BLACK WOMAN IS WHO AM.

I will never be a people pleaser, and for that reason, I have never, and will never, care what people think of me. There will always be a lie told. I love hard and I am loyal, I protect those I care for and hurt when they are in pain. I refuse to allow blatant disrespect and I believe in giving credit where credit is due. I take pride in how I love and care for others; it defines me. Yes, MY CHARACTER DEFINES ME, A STRONG BLACK WOMAN IS WHO I AM. All of this is to say that how I love is more about truly caring and making sure that others are well.

I’m exhausted from witnessing the heartache and heartbreak of so many of those I love. My sisters, especially, being mistreated by those who look like them; USED…LIED ON…LIED TO…CHEATED ON…TAKEN FOR GRANTED. So many are mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually abused by the very sisters, brothers, men and women of God, coworkers, lovers, and even spiritual leaders who vow to uplift, support, and lead them. Our men are abused, manipulated and used against their own families…breaking hearts…destroying lives and communities…carrying generations of trauma that prevents them from loving properly. This pain and anguish, during a time when many of us are already hurting and in our healing and recovery processes, is simply hurtful for me to see. Some are tired and ready to throw in the towel. We need to encourage each other to keep going…to not give up.

It’s time to fight back. The good can’t continue to finish last. It is time for us to win. We are allowing the devil 😈 to defeat us. He is destroying relationships daily. 😢 We are losing our extended family units…OUR VILLAGES…due to infighting caused by bullying, hatred, and alienation. Lives are being lost to the streets, souls are being lost to drugs, families are being torn apart, and friendships and relationships are suffering due to greed and hate. People are afraid to cry out for help. When we are losing jobs and leaving churches because of being bullied, when we are afraid to speak our truth because of judgement, when we allow our spouses to alienate us from family that needs us, WE ARE FAILING TO SHOW OUR STRENGTH AS MEN AND WOMEN. We become Judas’. We have turned our backs on those who need us. We have failed our friends. We have failed our families. We have failed our communities. We have failed God. At some point, things must change. We must show loyalty and require it. We cannot be afraid to speak up for those who need help. We cannot fail to empathize or show sympathy for those hurting, and we cannot afford to stand against those who harass and bully; we all, will one day need someone to show loyalty and defend us.

My mind was made up long ago, and there’s no turning back. What others think of my aggressive approach when my loved ones are wronged, will forever be a THEM problem. Doing all that I can to ensure that others are shown love and respect will be WHAT DEFINES ME, and whether they like it or not, A STRONG WOMAN, IS WHAT I AM; it’s what I will forever be.

Turning My Pain into My Prayerful Purpose

Dani❤️

Mind, Body, Spirit

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