Again, I lay here, thinking…praying…wondering…”what happened in my life”. One minute life was good; suddenly it BLEW UP. I looked at my life and that of my friends, my family, and the family of my ex’s. That’s when I realized that many of us are unconsciously repeating cycles. We are failing to become self-aware. We fail to realize that we need therapy. Many of us are entering relationships, making decisions, and being abused because we are unaware of, or failing to heal from, our childhood traumas. As we are in Day 7 of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I am experiencing, so many obstacles. There are repeated mistakes that I could have avoided had I began therapy long ago. Had I healed from my childhood trauma, I wouldn’t have to heal from broken relationships. Self awareness has now made me realize this, and as a result, I make a concerted effort to make better choices.
What does this have to do with domestic violence? Well, that’s simple. When we grow up in unhealthy and dysfunctional environments that have negatively effected us as children, our dysfunction, if not addressed, will become our norm. Without therapy and prayer, we continue the cycle of dysfunction with the families and friendships we create as adults. If we experience trauma of any kind as a child, it formulates who we are. Without therapy and/ or self awareness, the cycle will be repeated. This is why rape victims, victims of physical and mental abuse, fatherless and motherless children, children in poverty and teen parents need therapy. These traumas mold how we think and feel about ourselves…people…life…and will prevent us from forming happy, peaceful, and loving relationships. Of course, there are various other experiences, however, these traumas usually effect how we raise our families.
Self awareness tells me that my abandonment issues effect my relationships. They have made me who I am. It is why I have a strong sense of loyalty; I want to be what I didn’t have as a child. It is also why I love my children ❤️ the way I do. I want desperately, the love I missed from my absent dad and a too busy mom. I also want my childen to feel that same love. On the downside, I cut ✂️ people off or address situations at the first sign of disloyalty or shade. Many people unable to handle confrontation…unable to effectively communicate. I pretty much expect abandonment. Had I healed from my childhood trauma, I wouldn’t be healing from broken relationships, especially a marriage of 21 years. If he had healed from his childhood trauma; his dysfunctional family… no present father…having to be raised by a grandmother…maybe things would have turned out differently…maybe things would have never been…maybe only 5 years…maybe.
Someone reading this can relate to your being abused, seeing abuse, drug use, hearing the arguments, etc. as a child, is why you accept/ed the abuse you’ve participated in, either as a victim or a perpetrator. You saw the red flags, but it was your norm. When we don’t heal…when we aren’t self aware we continue the cycle. As we prepare for the holidays…a time for family…let’s become self aware. Let’s take care of us mentally. God calls us to be open to mending our broken relationships and seeking therapy for our traumas. It is imperative for healing…closure…reconciliation…peace. It is necessary in order to break the cycle. We have to HEAL FROM THE CHILHOOD TRAUMAS TO PREVENT HAVING TO HEAL FROM BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS 💔.
Dani❤️💋
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