Happy Saturday Yaaaalllll!!!!
To God be the Glory for the Great Things He Has Done!!!!!!
What an amazing two days it has been. I simply love how God places me right where He NEEDS ME TO BE. We cannot run or hide no matter how many times, or how long we try. We have all been through things, and lately, many of the people I come across, including myself, have been struggling with hurt from friends, family members, acquaintances and people they loved. I’ve heard crazy stories about family sabatoge, friendships going badly, disloyal friends, and have even experienced some of my own trauma in this regard. We’ll all experience hurt at some point unfortunately, because some people simply don’t know how to show love…sadly, they’ve never received real, pure, unconditional love.
When I finally came to terms with this realization, I began to see things a little differently. I stopped seeing the need to prove my point (even in knowing I was right), the less important things I now let go of. I let go of insignificant relationships and things that only bring drama. Even with those I love, I realize that God has a purpose and season for people. I’ve learned that every disagreement doesn’t have to be negative. I’ve accepted that no longer being friends doesn’t equate to being enemies. I HAVE GROWN, AND AM STILL GROWING. We all can continue to grow. GOD WILL EQUIP US IF WE ALLOW HIM!!! It was in my recovery, that I decided to continue to give my love through helping others. Repeatedly, God stirred my spirit for years, telling me during all of my leadership, management, teaching, working with people that THIS IS YOUR PURPOSE. He was simply preparing me for the last thirty years, because GOD’S WORK REQUIRES HEAVY LIFTING. Usually, while we are going through, it is the battle that we need to prepare us for God’s work. How can we get others through what we ourselves have not been through?
After being hurt numerous times, God wants us to show others how to love and heal from their hurt. Yes, we’ll still be hurt at times, but we won’t be broken. I finally learned, through my healing, that my loving others is for me and not them. When we love as a work of God, He will protect us through the process of all that comes with it. It’s amazing what can happen when we simply trust God!!! It’s so crazy in this world now, that it doesn’t take long.
People definitely reveal their true selves quickly. I’ve learned to not be angry, surprised or disappointed any longer when I realize that I am interacting with a representative, and not the actual character of an individual. My ability to see through the facade is much clearer. I no longer see who I want people to be, I recognize who they really are. I understand that we all are flawed and our issues are between us and God. We all make changes at different times in our lives. This is at times, a struggle for me still, however I know, that I too, am imperfect. As God is patient with me, I pray for patience when dealing with others, in order that they see the love ❤️ of God in me.
I am now thankful; I know that God has given me the ability to see things through my heart, rather than my eyes 👀. Although difficult, I no longer take people’s disappointment personally. I no longer have expectations of others. The education that I have received in this world of counseling, therapy and mental health has allowed me to help so many others while in my own recovery. The most important thing it has taught me, is that oftentimes, we must leave people in their pain. Because they are oftentimes angry and hurt, they will lash out in anger at those who care the most about them. Sometimes, people are not ready, and we cannot force them to seek healing. I know NOW that IT’S OK. Now, I pray for them. I remove myself, and pray that they can see their need for healing, and actually be able to receive it. I pray that they will stop hemorrhaging on those who were sent to help them heal.
I’M NOW WORKING ON LEARNING TO FORGIVE, AND I UNDERSTAND THAT IT’S OK THAT I’M NOT THERE YET. Every step is a process, and each step is growth. For that, I am happy.
The truth is, many people have been through so much trauma (repeated deaths, abuse, broken relationships, addiction, abandonment, poverty, job loss, homelessness, rape, etc) that they haven’t healed from one thing before going through another. They believe they are strong because they are STILL STANDING, they THINK they are STRONG 💪 and can make it through anything because they have overcome a multitude of obstacles, yet have never been to therapy or counseling. THEY HAVE NEVER HEALED. Unfortunately, the Stigma associated with mental illness and therapy makes many people believe that therapy is a sign of weakness. Contrary to this belief, therapy and beginning the process of recovery and healing is the strongest move we can make. We must, however, take the first step to look in the mirror, and recognize that we are operating out of our unhealed trauma. If we fail to do so, we will continue to bleed on those God has sent to love us.
Even in our healing and recovery processes, we must realize that our work is ongoing. We must remember that : Recovery doesn’t mean that we will never hurt. Recovery doesn’t mean that we will never cry. Recovery doesn’t mean that we won’t revisit the stories from our past. Recovery simply means that our trauma can help us to grow and learn to be better people. It means that we can cry tears of joy from growth, rather than tears of pain, and we can use our healing and recovery to help others to advance to healthier and happier places in their lives. Recovery means that we understand that our pain was for a purpose, and not meant to keep us in an unhealthy mental state. When we are truly healed, we can be at peace with our trauma and not be ashamed about where we came from, and be confident and excited about where we are going.
May each of you find healing while in your recovery process. Don’t ever give up. Don’t ever allow the insecurities of others cause you to second guess your purpose, and never allow the voices of the world to drown out the voice of God, who is calling each of us to walk in our purpose.
GOD LOVES YOU AND SO DO I
Dani💋❤️
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