As I sit here preparing for work this morning, I realize that time is quickly passing by. Already it is December 7th. It seems like just yesterday when I was fighting to remain calm and not cry because on my 23rd anniversary (Dec 3) my marriage was awaiting the finalization of my divorce. Four days have flown by. Not one of my problems or concerns, not one of your tears have stopped the world from moving.
Life will continue while we sit in our grief. Our hearts are so broken from our loss that we feel as if we cannot go on, that we get angry because the world around us continues to move as if nothing has happened. This is more reason we need to push forward to live a better and happier life. If what has hurt us is still living and thriving, why shouldn’t we? We have to make real changes in 2022 and be direct in them. This is our only way to stay in the BLACK.
In making our real changes, we must be unapologetic about who we are and the changes we make; our mental health depends on it. We have the right to take charge of our lives without feeling guilty or apologizing for setting boundaries for our peace. In order to set boundaries and make these real changes, some different things may need to take place such as :
Saying no and sticking to it
Not feeling bad about being emotional
Not answering the phone if you don’t want to talk
Not making excuses for the behavior of others
Not settling for less than you deserve
Not agreeing with people when you think they are wrong
Put yourself first for a change
So many will be upset when they can’t break down the wall of boundaries. Some will flee, but the relationships that are healthy and really worth saving will become stronger and last through 2022 and beyond. Time is ticking. Get in the BLACK!
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Dying to be Perfect 